We’re all coping with COVID 19 in our own ways. Some people are becoming extra productive, using their downtime to write a novel and deep clean the pantry, while others consider it a triumph to shower daily. Some are attending to their hygiene and he...

Many of my friends and clients are feeling a particular pressure right now to be extra productive and use their safer-at-home time to complete tasks and learn new skills. Some of them are hosting family sports tournaments, cleaning out closets, or wr...

I sent this message out to clients this week, maybe you'll find it helpful:

Hi, I’m sending this to let you know that during this time of great weirdness, I’m offering support in any way I can. I’m doing phone and video sessions, as well as quicker ch...

This amazing piece was written by a college-age client of mine. I love the perspective, from someone who knows first-hand, of how talking through things with a trusted professional can help on many levels. 

A common misconception is that if you go to...

Some sayings might be well-intended, but that doesn’t make them true, let alone easy to hear. Case in point: “You can’t find love until you learn to love yourself.”

The people who come to me for help tend to hate that thought. “If I knew how to love m...

We are an “if only” society: “If only I were thinner, smarter, more popular, etc., then I’d be happy.” It’s easy to be tempted by this line of thinking. However, it’s not the lack of problems in our lives that matters, but rather how we respond to th...

When you live with someone who is clinically depressed, there will be days when you’ve got it as tough as they do. Taking care of a loved one—whether it’s a child, partner, relative, or friend—can leave you just as debilitated, in pain, and wracked w...

“I was looking forward to the party and I liked everyone there, but afterward I felt so down. I couldn’t stop worrying about what I’d said that sounded stupid, or if I hurt someone’s feelings. But I can’t possibly have social anxiety. I love socializ...

There have been countless articles—including some of my own—about the hazards of so-called “helicopter parenting,” the current trend of over-watchful, over-involved child rearing (also known as cosseting). By now, many people are familiar with storie...